SHOULD I STAY OR GO? i love my husband very much?

we've been married for 11 yrs. for 9 yrs. now, my husband does not want to have with me.for our first 3 years, we had for 7 times for the entire 3 yrs. he does not talk to me ever since our first year. when i talk to him, he always ignores me and pretend that i don't exist. when he seldom answers, he is angry and always tells me to shut up. he is also like this to our 11 year old son, that's why my son is so scared of him. he does not hurt us physically, but emotionally, he always does. he does not smoke nor drink. but as far as i know, he had a not so pleasant childhood. he grew up in a family where his father does not show love to his mother.aside from emotional abused, his father physically abused his mother too.in fact, he have another woman. he just go home to his mother whenever he wants to. and that is very seldom. his father have also treated his children very badly. aside from a bad childhood experienced, i know, my husband also had bad experienced with other people before i met him. i know, there is a big reason why he became the person that he is now. a man with a heart of stone. who does not know how to accept love, who does not know how to show love or not to love at all. i love my husband very much. and i'm willing to save our marriage and to save my relationship with him. my son also loves his father dearly. we don't want to leave him alone because we know that only me and my son can love and care for my husband the way we do. i always tel my son not to be like his father, who does not know how to love. pls. help. me